Jealously

• Wants to be with you constantly

• Accuses you of cheating all the time

• Follows you around or frequently calls during day

• Odd behaviors like checking your car mileage or asking friends to check in on you

Controlling Behavior

• Hides controlling behavior behind pretending to be concerned for your safety, or that you use your time well

• Acts like you don't have the ability to make good decisions

• Becomes extremely angry when late

• Constantly questions who you spend your time with, what you did/wore/said/where you went

• Makes you ask permission to do certain things

Quick Involvement

• 6 months or less before living together/engaged

• Claims love at first sight

• Says you are the only one who can make them feel this way

• Pressure for commitment

Unrealistic Expectations

• Compliments you in a way that makes you seem superhuman

• Very dependent for all needs

• Expects you to be perfect

• Says "I am all you need. You are all I need."

Isolation

• Tries to cut off all your resources

• Puts down everyone you know

• Friends are either stupid, smutty or you are cheating with them

• Family is too controlling, don't really love you, or you are too dependent on them

• Refuse to let you use car or talk on phone

• Makes it difficult for you to go to school or work

Blames Others For Problems

If there are problems at school or work it is always someone else's fault

Makes you responsible for how they feel:

• "You make me mad."

• "You're hurting me for not doing what I ask."

• "I can't help being angry."

• "You make me happy."

• "You control how I feel."

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