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	When you and your spouse/partner are together, your spouse/partner acts very controlling and puts you down in front of other people.

	Your spouse/partner sometimes violently loses his/her temper, striking or breaking objects.

	Your spouse/partner acts extremely jealous of others who pay attention to you.

	You are afraid of making your spouse/partner angry.

	You see less and less of your friends and family members, and are becoming more isolated.

	Your spouse/partner controls your finances, the way you dress, your behavior and even who you socialize with.

	Your spouse/partner has threatened to harm you, or to commit suicide if you leave.

	Your spouse/partner hits, shoves, slaps or kicks you, or forces you to have sex when you don't want to.

Does your partner:

	Embarrass or make fun of you in front of your friends or family?

	Put down your accomplishments or goals?

	Make you feel like you are unable to make decisions?

	Use intimidation or threats to gain compliance?

	Tell you that you are nothing without them?

	Treat you roughly - grab, push, pinch, shove or hit you?

	Call you several times a night or show up to make sure you are where you said you would be, accuse you of cheating?

	Use drugs or alcohol as an excuse for saying hurtful things or abusing you?

	Blame you for how they feel or act?

	Pressure you sexually for things you aren’t ready for or don't want to do?

	Make you feel like there "is no way out" of the relationship?

	Prevent you from doing things you want - like spending time with your friends or family?

	Try to keep you from leaving after a fight or leave you somewhere after a fight to "teach you a lesson"?

Do You:

	Sometimes feel scared of how your spouse/partner will act?

	Constantly make excuses to other people for your spouse/partner’s behavior?

	Believe that you can help your spouse/partner change if only you changed something about yourself?

	Try not to do anything that would cause conflict or make your spouse/partner angry?

	Feel like no matter what you do, your spouse/partner is never happy with you?

	Always do what your spouse/partner wants you to do instead of what you want?

	Stay with your spouse/partner because you are afraid of what your partner would do if you left the relationship?

If you checked any of the responses above, you may be in an abusive relationship.

The abuse may continue and increase in severity over time. If you think you may be a victim of domestic violence, but aren't sure, call Skagit DV&SA Services at 1-800-726-6010 for more information.

Services are confidential and free.

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